Unselfish Act

Just thought of something in particular. Is there such a thing as an unselfish act? Seriously, I ponder about this question when watching Joey from the sitcom [Friends] in one of their episode, whereby Phoebe is trying to prove to Joey that acts of unselfishness exist. But does it??! Take donations for example, when people make a contribution to the less fortunate such as community chest, children society, religious funds raising and the now infamous NKF, what were you thinking at that moment? That you should probably help them out since you are more fortunate and that, you are really a good person inside? Therefore, you are doing a “wonderful” thing and want nothing in return. It is the right thing to do. However, it makes you feel good doesn't it? Pleased that you have done a good deed by helping out and that surely must make you a "good" person. Nevertheless, the truth is, you are donating to feel good bout yourself inside.

A couple of examples:

1.You help an old woman cross the road. You feel good cos that shows you are really a caring and helpful citizen of the community. Hence, you sort of were rewarded in terms of emotional sensation.

2.You gave up your seat on the bus/mrt for a pregnant or elderly person. What a very considerate person you must be. (Bet the praises and approving nods from other passengers gives you the highs. Once again you 'received' something.)

We may argue all you want but that is the truth. Would people have donated if it makes them feel like shit? If I were to ask any of you to contribute to my beer and cigarettes funds, I bet you will ask me to fly kite. But hey, I Feel good. So why can't you hand over your dough so that I could enjoy? Cos you do not get anything in return that's why! You do not get any satisfaction from knowing I am enjoying myself.